UghFIRE

  Peter Thornhill, Australian finance guru has regularly said "if you have two savers in a relationship it is Nirvana, if you have two spenders it's survivable, but if you have one saver and one spender you're in trouble, because one will simply spend their time undoing all the efforts of the other" (see an interview transcript with Peter here ). This topic has come up a few times in forums, blogs, and podcasts, but I don't recall seeing anyone tackle it head-on. Unlike many people in the FIRE community, I'm not an engineer or in IT. A lot of my work focuses on influencing people to act in what are often in their and the collective best interests. Even if they don't quite recognise what those best interests are yet. I think some of the strategies I've picked up along the way might apply here. How do I get my partner on board with FIRE? Before I get into it, I want to share a word of warning: The line between benevolent influence and